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9 BIGGEST MISTAKES Y O U W A N T T O A V O I D T H I S F A L L W H E N I T C O M E S T O Y O U R H E A LT H , H A P P I N E S S , A N D H E A L I N G B Y L . Y . M A R L O W

Growing up poor in one of the worst housing projects in Phila- delphia, a teen mom, and a survi- vor of domestic violence, I was one of the first in my family to go to college and earn not one but three degrees. By the time I landed my first promising job in corpo- rate America, I was convinced that I would not only shatter the glass

tension, stroke, ulcers, PTSD, anxiety, and depression. But that lanky little girl had also heard what our overzealous society tells us is the path to the American Dream: Grit + Hustle = Success. I had grit. I had a hustle. But I’d lost my way. I didn’t know how not to work so hard. Even when I tried to find balance, it meant getting as much done as I could in the fourteen-to-sixteen-hour days that I had become accus- tomed to, then ending my day in the nick of time to eat, sleep (rest- lessly), then do it all over again. The truth is we all have a need for belonging—and so many other monsters—that drive us. I know firsthand how challenging it can be to find that delicate balance when you want nothing more than to succeed. But success comes with a price. << Spoiler Alert: Tune in to my podcast: The BIG Failure Secret that I’ve Never Shared Before>> That is why I’d like to share the 9 biggest mistakes you should avoid this fall regarding your health, happiness, and healing.

ceiling but invent a new one. I was so fixated on my ceiling that I couldn’t begin to fathom the damage I was doing to my body. And I’d shouldered a deep sense of personal responsibility: I did not want to fail. I could NOT fail. Ever since I was eight years old—about the time I came to under- stand the difference between success and failure—I’d prided myself on working hard to prove that I was good enough, that I belonged. Somehow, fear of failure and belonging were synonymous to me, something I’d learned when I first started measuring myself against my brother. Barely nine months apart, we shared the same age, size, height, and schools. But he was always so much faster, smarter, more gifted than I. For years, I thought of him: what, why, and how he would do some- thing, and then I’d try my darndest to do it better. I loved my brother. We were so close. But secretly, I envied how learning came so easily for him but knocked me square on my ass. Although I wasn’t the sharpest knife in the drawer, a bit awkward, lanky and lacking, I did have one thing going for me: grit. Whatever I put my mind to, I was determined to persevere. Decades later, when I looked in the mirror, all I saw was my glass ceil- ing. That singular project or task or email sent me into a frenzy. I no longer measured myself against my brother. Instead, I nowmeasured myself against my insatiable need for belonging—a belonging that was interwoven in my quest never to have to go back to that hous- ing project again. I didn’t think about the consequences. I didn’t think about the risks. Yes, I’d heard that stress is a weapon of mass destruction—leading to all kinds of chronic and acute illnesses like heart disease, hyper-

Mistake 1 - Not getting your COVID vaccine and/or flu shot Remember the good ole days when there were no restrictions or social distancing? Well, COVID has undoubtedly reordered how we live our lives - how we work, where we can go, how we connect with people. Unfortunately, coronavirus has come to stay for a while, and the only 'panacea' we can take is to follow protocols and get the vaccines (CDC: Myths and Facts about COVID-19 Vaccines). Just like COVID, influenza has also contributed to many deaths. That is why it is also import- ant that you get the flu shot. Both rev up your immune system and save lives.

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